5 Steps I’ve Used To Write My First Book

Last week I gave my first keynote speech in front of almost 300 people for Graceworks ministries. Here’s a short clip:

The next day I was reflecting upon my the moves that helped me get to this point.  Here are the five steps I took to manifest my new career:

1.) Dream

I am a musician who has played thousands of gigs next to jukeboxes and dart boards.  I realized that unless I changed something I would never get out of bars.  I heard about Jana Stanfield, who was a Nashville songwriter, like me, struggling to make her way.  She started speaking and using her music to convey a positive message.  Now she travels the world sharing the stage with Jack Canfield and Wayne Dyer.  She made the leap and that became my dream: To travel the world speaking and sharing my music.

2.) Seek Knowledge/Mentorship

Author Dan Miller often says on his podcast, 48 Days To The Work You Love, that one success principle is to seek out others who have done what you want to do and ask them for advice or take them to lunch.  His words were on my mind when I bumped into him at the Franklin, TN post office.  Somehow I got the courage to ask him to lunch (with his encouragement from the podcast running through my mind).

We met at Wolfgang Pucks and I told him I would like to become a speaker who talks and uses music to inspire and encourage others.  Then he asked about my story.  I told him about my foreclosure and living in the truck stop parking lot and how I learned to apply gratitude for everything.  Dan said, “You should write a book about that”.  He said the best way to get into speaking is through writing and the best way to get into writing is through speaking.  They both compliment each other.  A generous hour and a half later I paid for lunch (always pay if you ask!) and left with all the notes I took and inspired by all his encouragement.

3.)  Surround Yourself with Dreamers

Some of the most encouragement I have received is being in the presence of other optimists.  The best place to find them is at conferences.  I’ve attended Write to the Bank in Franklin *, TN repeatedly for the last year and a half.  This conference has show me how to market my book, how to build a platform, what publishers are looking for (they bring in a publisher), the advantages of self-publishing (they bring in Kent Julian, a successful speaker with several self-published books, and the talk about ways to write (they bring in a successful author).  They build in plenty of time to network with others and I always come away highly motivated. You are who you surround yourself with.

Also, I got more involved in 48days.net.  Check it out for yourself.

4.) Take Action

This trumps everything.  You don’t have to dream to write a book, you have to write.   When you’re in doubt, write.  When tired, write. Do something, move forward. Focus.  Don’t ‘build a platform’, don’t tweet, don’t worry about the book cover.  A book that is not written does not need a cover.  Write.  Do what is in front of you that day.

After I wrote my book I went to the newspapers and a got some publicity.  Then I started calling around, asking organizations if I could speak for them.  The book generated some credibility and shared my story.  The newspaper articles helped get the word out.  Along with some book signings and giving away many, many free books I started to get a little traction.  I will keep that traction by more action!  Action is all!

5.) Manifest

This is the most incredible part.  After I spoke to the audience at Graceworks I took the next day off.  I looked back at where I began, more than a year and a half ago.  I reflected that it all began with an idea and now I am doing it!  For the first time I could see what happened.  It wasn’t just belief, it was knowing.  This is how things get done.  Start with an idea, seek knowledge, surround yourself with winners, take massive action and then see it, feel it, and experience it.

What or where will you be 18 months from today?  What is your dream or idea?

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Why Thoughts Are Like Snowballs

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“Work joyfully and peacefully, knowing that right thoughts and right efforts will inevitably bring about right results” -James Allen

In Steve Jobs biography it is written that Steve felt thought patterns were like grooves on a record.  The mind will generally stay in that groove unless you change it.  I relate to this a little differently.  I call it the thought snowball.

When I was working alone out in the field one day at Arrington Vineyards, seven years ago, my thoughts started to turn Continue Reading…

A Story of a Great Teacher

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Do you remember a teacher that changed your life? I do.  He was my 11th grade Algebra teacher and the football coach, Mr. Fetzer.

Mr. Fetzer wasn’t a tall or big man.  He had short hair parted and the side and taught algebra with the intensity of a football coach.  It was his passion and compassion that made him remarkable.

My high school was a vocational school.  One week was spent in academics and the next week I learned diesel mechanics.  Because of this my math classes were Continue Reading…

What Would You Do In My Situation?


How do you handle adversity?  Are you thankful for it?  Are you proactive?

Over the past 7 years I have not concerned myself with finances much.  If I had rent, gas and food then I just enjoyed my life.  Now I really hunger to move on to a higher level of financial success.  Here is where I am at financially:

Savings: $300

Yearly Income: 2011 Continue Reading…

What I Would Have Missed Had I Succeeded In Killing Myself

 

I open  my book You Can Sleep In Your Car But You Can’t Drive You House To Work with a couple of stories about trying to kill myself while depressed and having my home foreclosed in 2004.  I realize my life is all “bonus hockey”.  You know,

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Do You Know The Greatest Profession?

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Speaker Cavett Robert once told a story of the King’s servant who stumbled upon a Genie in the bottle one day.  After he rubbed the bottle the Genie came out, thanked him and granted him one wish.  The King’s servant said, “All my life I have been serving the King and his court.  I would like for others to now serve me”.  The Genie granted his one with and then disappeared.

The servant then walked to the street and a car appeared.  The driver got out, opened the door for him and asked him where he would like to go.  The servant, rather impressed, asked to go to dinner.  The driver took him to the finest restraunt, pulled in front then opened the car door for him.  He got out and someone opened the door of the dinner and he was waited on by the staff.  After dinner the car Continue Reading…

Introduction to my new book

God and Footprints in the Sand

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Many people are familiar with the poem, “Footprints“.  Many people have claimed to write it or some version of it over the years.  The poem talks about a dream where they looked over their life and saw two sets of footprints in the sand.  One represented theirs and the other God’s.  The author points out that over the span of their life, at the most troubled part, there were only one set of footprints.  The author asks God, “Why did you abandon me when I needed you most”.  God said, “That was were I carried you”.

Ok, there’s the synopsis.  That has not been my experience with God.  My experience has been whenever there is one set of footprints,that is God walking over to me.  God has always met me where I was at.  When depressed, addicted, abandoned and homeless, God’s hand was there for me, right next to me.  All I had to do was lift up my hand and reach for Him.  I had to reach out to God and grab His hand.

God met me where I was at.  It made little difference as to my understanding or prejudices of God.  It didn’t matter the depth of my belief.  All that mattered was that I asked for His help, care and protection.

What has been your experience connecting to God or a Higher Power?

The 5 Best Tips on Starting a Service Business

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Have you ever thought about starting a service business?  Do you currently run one?  

Almost four years ago I started a janitorial company, Cool Springs Office Cleaning.  I asked for advice from several friends of mine who have successful business’s.  Here are 5 of the best tips they gave me: Continue Reading…

4 Magic Words to Transform Your Attitude

That's me, running up the steps of the Sydney Opera House in Australia (photo by Richard Edelstien)

 

Several years ago I called a friend of mine for help.  I was going through a rough spot in with my life.  I knew I needed to change my attitude but my mind kept focusing on my problem, which only made things worse.

My friend told 4 words he tells himself that worked to change his attitude and keep him positive.  He said, “I just tell myself, ‘I’m living my dream’”.

I started telling myself that and immediately my attitude changed.  I started laughing and thought, yeah, some dream.

Then I thought about all of the good things in my life and all I had to be thankful for.  I also remembered, as Og Mandino says, “this too shall pass”.

My attitude continues to make all the difference in how I handle life’s challenges on a daily basis.  And I am ‘living my dream’.

What do you use to change you attitude when you are down?

The Gratitude Challenge and Book Give-Away

 

 

“Constantly thank God. When suffering, thank God for needing his comfort and love” -Fr. Gordon

“Thus, appreciation is the antidote to fear” -What Happy People Know, Dr. Dan Baker

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Do you get the winter blues?  Have you been knocked back on you feet due to a job loss, home foreclosure or a relationship break-up.  There is a Zen saying that goes, “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional“.  Yet in the book Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl it is stated that, “to live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering”.  Frankl goes on to say that while he was imprisoned in a concentration camp during WWII he observed that , “to choose one’s attitude in a given set of circumstances is the last of human freedoms”.

In tough circumstances I have found Continue Reading…

How to George Costanza Your Instincts

“Every instinct I’ve had in every area of life….it’s all been wrong”.  -George Costanza

“Well there’s no telling what could happen as the result of this”. -Elaine

“If every instinct you have is wrong, then the opposite would have to be right”. -Jerry Seinfield

Have you ever felt all of your instincts in life were wrong?  How do we learn to hone them and use them for our benefit?  How do we know if doing the opposite of our instincts will actually Continue Reading…

Here’s my epitaph, what’s yours?

I often hear speakers ask, “What do you want on your gravestone?  What do you want to be known for?”.  I never had an answer.  How the hell should I know?  Isn’t that something that is decided by others?

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Now I’ve lived a pretty interesting life.  I moved to Nashville with whatever I could fit in my car and slept on my friend’s couch until I got settled.  I’ve worked in the music industry, played in a band, wrote some great songs (I Still Got a Lot To Give), played music in church, sang at weddings, traveled to Acapulco in a private jet (totally kicked ass!), traveled to Australia and went dog-sledding in Colorado.  I have even published my first book, You Can Sleep In Your Car But You Can’t Drive Your House To Work.

Here’s the thing, Continue Reading…

Do You Have a Pacer?

Do you set goals so big that you cannot achieve them on your own? If so, you need a pacer; someone to run along side you, encourage you and make sure you are keeping on course.

Photo: Pacers Daley Ervin (left) and Will Stinson (right) pose with Phil Theodore during the home stretch of his 100 mile run in Leadville, CO

My friend Phil just ran his first in Leadville, Colorado at 10,000 feet of elevation. It took him 29 hours and 21 minutes. He started at 4am Saturday morning and ended Sunday morning at 9:21am. He climbed 7,800 feet to a height of 12,620 feet above sea level. This was the culmination of two years of intense training and preparation. Phil will be the first to tell you he could not have done it on his own.

So what did Phil do? He recruited two pacers; two men that would take turns running next to him. The pacers job is to make sure

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Do You Make Excuses?

While at Starbucks this past weekend a friend was sharing with Keith (another friend) and I an opportunity for a solution he had (some people call them problems).  We were sitting at Five Points Starbucks in Downtown Franklin, TN discussing the situation when Keith said, “Winners don’t make excuses, they make things happen!”  We laughed and made him repeat it.  ”Winners don’t make excuses, they make things happen!”

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What a gem.  Yes, it has been said many times in many different ways.  No, it’s not new.  And yes, it is true.  Simple but true.

Winners fail but they don’t let failure define them.  Winners quit but not due to frustration; they quit when it’s time to quit and move on.  Winners are optimistic.  But most importantly, winners don’t make excuses, they make things happen.  Thank you Keith!

How are you making things happen?

 

How to Declare Your Independence: 6 Steps

As we celebrate Independence Day in the United States, let us not forget our service men and women who allowed us to wake up in safety.  Let us honor their sacrifice.  The debt owed to them can never be paid back.  It is a gift you and I possess.

The freedoms we take for granted today are just a spark in a dark room of world history.  What we have today is not common and it will pass.  The world will fall back into the tyranny and slavery of evil men, if history is to repeat itself.  Only the sacrifice of those before us and those that continue to serve allow us to temporarily hold this gift.  Let us not waste it.

(photo courtesy flickr by ElvertBarnes)

What is holding you back? Is there a communist regime with its foot on your neck as you lie face down in the mud?  Are you Continue Reading…

How I Cut $169 From My Monthly Budget

 

It is not the man who has little, but the man who craves more, that is poor”.-Seneca the Younger

Lately I have noticed my monthly expenses creeping up.  I decided I had two choices, increase my income or lower my expenses.  In order to increase my income I had to either find a few new cleaning accounts for my janitorial business, find more music gigs to play, or create something new.  In other words, trade hours for dollars.  Since I enjoy my ‘time freedom’ and blogging  on topics like  contentment, I decided to simplify and lower my monthly expenses.

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In order to do this, I did a review of all my monthly expenses: Continue Reading…

1 Test To Avoid A Life Of Regret

 

…What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes-James 4:14

In 1994 I had just come home from a late night of playing music in a local bar in Buffalo, NY.  It was so much fun, it was all I wanted to do.  The next day I listened to a Tony Robbins speech.  He talked about the “rocking chair” test.  He said to imagine that you are 75 years old and sitting in a rocking chair reflecting on your life.  Then ask yourself the questions, “What do I wish I had done in my life?  If I had to live my life over, starting at (your age), how would I live?  What risks do I wish I would have taken?”

Several months after taking that test I quit my job, gave away everything I owned that wouldn’t fit into my car and moved to Nashville to pursue a career in music.  I have NEVER regretted that decision.

 

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This morning I read LifeHacks blog: The top 5 regrets people make on their deathbeds and was reminded of that rocking chair test.   Recently, I have been working on #3 of that list; having the courage to express my feelings.  What risks are you ready to take that will keep you from living a life of regret?

Ships that pass in the night and speak each other in passing; Only a signal shown and a distant voice in the darkness; So on the ocean of life we pass and speak one another, Only a look and a voice; then darkness again and a silence. -Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

 


Do You Care Like This?

Zig Ziglar says, “Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care”.

Here is an example of caring.  A few weeks ago Justin Lukasavige from CoachRadio.TV offered a one-hour coaching special.  I signed up for an hour.  I didn’t have anything specific to talk about, however I figured the association would be good and assumed I would benefit from the call.  I was right.  In talking with Justin, I realized that the obstacle I needed to overcome to move forward was completing my book.  I mentioned to Justin that I could finish it in two weeks if I worked at it.

Two weeks went by.  I worked on my book and was almost done, but not quite there and not really committed to the dead line.  Justin was in the middle of moving his family and all their belongings from Raleigh, NC to Woodland Park, CO.  When I woke up Friday morning and checked my email, this message was in my inbox from Justin:

Hey, Sutton. I’m in the middle of my move, but I know that you’re coming up on the due date for your book. Are you almost done?

Friends, that is caring.  How do you show others you care?

4 Business Rules I Leaned From Running

“Look, if you had one shot, or one opportunity

To seize everything you ever wanted in one moment

Would you capture it or just let it slip?”

- Eminem, Lose Yourself

(Photo by Richard Edelstein)

Last Labor Day I ran Franklin Classic 10k race in Franklin, TN.  To train for it I ran 100 consecutive days for at least 30 minutes.  My weight was down and my endurance was elevated.  I was ready.

My friend Phil told me to start off slow and increase my speed with each mile.  He said most people burn themselves out in Continue Reading…

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